Anatomy of an asshole

Hello
I'm Althea (not my real name, duh!!) and this blog is being created to expose
one of the most pathetic men (and I use the term extremely loosely, believe me)
I had the misfortune of knowing. And I know him because my
closest friend has the misfortune of dating him for about 9 years now.

Of course I’m talking about RAY

The reason I’m doing this is because she is a wonderful person with a huge heart
who had the bad luck of falling hopelessly in love with him the moment she saw him.
He is a survivor, has street smarts and reeled her in right away taking from her the best years of her life and having her live in conditions that most of us would find deplorable.
And all that because she loves him and will do anything to please him which of course he uses to his advantage. Now, I’m not saying she’s perfect, none of us is. But for him she is wayyy more than a fatal virus like him deserves. She has taken to wearing the pants in their “family” simply because he will not. He just can’t be bothered to grow up and be a responsible adult. Like lots of us, she had done some drugs in her past but this guy, makes sure she keeps doing them even when she'd rather not and even when her health is in danger because she has serious health risk problems since birth. When she becomes numb on the whole one side of her body, he just tells her to sleep it off and he's off to go listen to music on his computer. Such concern!!!
He just don’t care about anyone but his own ass. He is purposely being anti social to her friends and family, that way isolating her from the people who truly care for her and can be a positive influence on her. He keeps telling her she’s not worthy of him cause he’s such an extraordinary man (if one can call him that, I prefer parasite personally) and that she always lets him down the moment she tries to stand up for her self therefore destroying any chance she has for freeing her self of him.
We (her real friends) and her family try constantly to get her to understand how she’s being abused and she sees it!! She knows!!!. She doesn’t want to live like this anymore, that’s what she tells us. But when she goes home and he starts sweet talking to her and cons her, all she feels and wants for herself, goes out the window to be replaced by unhappiness once again.
Somehow, he has this power over her that keeps her enslaved to him and short of violence, we don’t know how to save her from him. But we will figure out how he does it. No one has the right to treat a woman this way.

Anyways…. he is a lazy, abusive, manipulating parasite living on the back of the taxpayers and my friend, who truly enjoys staying home smoking weed or being out riding and smoking weed, or just smoking weed and popping a couple of pills and abusing the woman whose feet he should be kissing for giving him a roof over his clouded head and putting food on the table and paying his dope and bills. In short, he should be thanking her for being the MAN he could NEVER be.

So who is RAY????

Ray or Raymond Simpson or even d.j. Psymosfear (yes, now days
Everyone is a d.j.) is not as wonderful a person as he says he is on his
Profile at: http://www.rave.ca/en/member/simpson/


I will try here to analyze his character as in layman terms.

Adventurous: Yes, when it comes to buying new bike parts for his precious bikes
Or trying a new trail but never about finding a good job and supporting his girlfriend and giving her a decent life
Artistic: Yes he is
Easygoing: If things are going his way (which is how he always wants things to go), yes. If not….watch out… Hell on earth!!! (his expression)
Friendly: To his fellow pothead biker types absolutely. To anyone else, especially his girlfriends’ family and friends, me included….nope
High Energy: Sure, when you smoke 10 joints a day, I guess your energy is HIGH
Humorous: I suppose…he seems to laugh at his jokes.soo..yeahhh
Loving: Not to his son that he hasn’t seen practically since birth about 10 years ago I think
or has ever sent a penny to. Not to his girlfriend who he treats like garbage even though
she’s the one working to support his welfare ass and has to go borrowing and begging for money and food from her family and friends so he can make sure he has dope money. Rent, bills, food, those are of minimal importance and not his concern as long as he’s stoned, everything’s fine. Some of his terms of endearment when she mentions that maybe he should get a job to help her out a little and that have been heard from the neighbors: fucking bitch, fucking cunt, fucking whore, fucking slut…well…you get the idea!!!

Open-Minded: To new bike parts, rolling paper, weed, music yes. Not to concepts like
Job, future, his girlfriends’ health, responsibility, compromise e.t.c.
Playful: With his bike(s) and stereo equipment…yup!!
Practical: He is. He’s actually very handy and knows a lot about home renovations, could’ve easily had a good paying job. But that’s not cool for stoner biker people so his practicality goes to waste.
Responsible: Hmm…yes. For three things only. Himself, weed, and bikes.
For eeeevrything else that truly matters in everyday life, see his girlfriend.
Romantic: Haaahaaaaaa!!!! I’ll just list two wonderful gifts his girlfriend has received on
Special occasions: Plastic flowers from a discount dollar store cause they last forever, just like his love for her and a rock he found when they were camping that sort of looked like a heart. Again a symbol of his un-dying love for her. Also, on special occasions, he’ll bring her to a first class fast food joint for a burger. And while they’ll WALK home from downtown after their lovely dinner cause it’s good for their health, he thinks it’s the perfect opportunity to tell her how he really needs this amazing new bike part that’s kind of expensive but really worth it, and if she really loves him, she’ll have to help him buy it by putting in 80 % of the price. Now if that don’t say romantic, don’t know what does.
Sensitive: To his own needs and well being. Not sensitive enough to go to the store for milk or chocolate at 11PM so instead he bitches and whines and curses his girlfriend till she has to go for him. And did I mention they live in a shitty neighborhood with drugies, Prosties and every type of degenerate asshole one can think off?
Simple: Oh he’s simple alright. Very simple. His way is right and everyone else can go
Fuck themselves.
Spontaneous: Yes, when his friends call with a new bike trail they found, he’ll just get up and go….zooooommm!!!!!!!
Unconventional: Well, you read enough so far, what do you think??
Wild: Like I said earlier, if things don’t go his way….hell on earth baby…hell on earth…!!


A quote from Ray from a discussion board:
"people need to grow up when they have kids. kids look up to people older than them,
and if the people that are older act like kids then where will we be in the end.
a world for drugged up kids and no future!!!!
Grow Up!!!!!! lead by example."

Did you happen to remember that you have a son in Ottawa, Ray?? Oh but that’s OK, you never see him so I guess you don’t need to worry about setting an example huh? Sure hope that since he doesn’t live with his mom, and wouldn’t know what your face looks like if you were next to him, that woman that’s raising him can give him a better example than you ever could.
Asshole! (#2)